Doughnut Dating

I appear to have met my worse case scenario. Ticking all the boxes of men that I will not date, I find it somewhat alarming how much I am beginning to like him. When you are a forty something divorcee (or about to be) with 4 children, one of the worst case scenarios has to be a man in his 40's with no children. If you are single man in his 40's that has no children and yet wants them - the absolute worse case scenario is a nearly divorced woman in her 40's with 4 children.

And this is exactly the situation I find myself in. Still dating a man with lots of children didn't guarantee a rational being and marrying a man and having four children did not guarantee great fatherhood, so what do I know. Life hasn't gone according to plan so far so I am taking the open minded approach. He is taking the lets thinks about this carefully but I really don't know what to think approach.

All I can say on the matter is that staying with an attractive man and not crossing a line is rather like eating a doughnut but not being allowed to lick your lips.